In my experience men are better at communicating anger, or at least find it easier than women.  Anger is more acceptable and expected from a man.  Anger is a normal and healthy emotion to experience from time to time rather than a default position. Women often hide anger as resentment, as they have never been allowed to communicate anger.  It’s there but with a different window dressing.  Often cis girls grow up feeling the need to be good, quiet, happy, nurturing compared to cis boys where it can be seen as an essential strength in some cultures. It doesn’t make it ok though.

Anger and resentment typically build up in layers.  If one thing happened in isolation it probably wouldn’t be a big deal, but when repeated exposure over years builds up it can create an anger management control problem for the person and their family or work colleagues.

The good news is that there is help at hand, to support you through to understanding and recoding old stuff (trauma in therapist land language) that created this default position or quick to flame, so you can move forward without it holding you back or repeatedly bouncing you back into patterns you want to shift.

That inner feeling of waiting to be called out as an imposter, not clever enough, or a generalised belief of not deserving of more, unworthy and not enough.  These are all limiting self-beliefs that your mind coded in to keep you safe at the time.  They had a purpose once but are no longer helpful.  Your amazing imagination can recode them out, to update them at the very deepest level to more life affirming beliefs linked to your adult goals and dreams.

Our negative habits are so frustrating, aren’t they?! We start out feeling super motivated, this is it, this time I won’t fall back, we keep at it for a few days and see some changes.. and then wham! We’re back almost where we started and not even sure how it happened!

It is not about you being unmotivated, undisciplined, lazy or whatever other criticism you are telling yourself. It is all about the unconscious part of our mind keeping us safe.  It only cares about survival, and it has done a perfect job so far.  You’re alive.  The knack is in convincing the unconscious mind that the new way of being is safe.  To bring all parts of us into alignment.

My techniques help get you into the creative structure and with tools to stick to it until it becomes the new normal, supporting you along the middle where the risks of falling are.

The price of love is loss.  It is part of the human experience.  However, the trauma of how the loss came about may be something that takes up so much space it is hard to grieve the relationship loss.  The techniques I use can allow you to reconcile with how the loss came to be and leave you with the natural love and sadness to allow you to grieve more fully and heal.

Typically, we aren’t born with stress and depression.  We are almost a blank canvas.  Life happens as part of the human existence and our brain can encode trauma from as young as 7 months gestation.  Recent studies have shown that we can also inherit trauma from up to 7 generations back.  Trauma that isn’t even our own! The good news is that the techniques I use can dissolve the trauma receptor in the brain for events in your past and support you to create the life you want, free of old triggers that have held you back.

Sometimes we come to a crossroad and wonder what is next, or we reach a threshold and know something has to change but we don’t know what.

With gentle, curious enquiry, and techniques we uncover your source code of who you are and your natural gifts.  Connecting in to your true nature and purpose to live your best life regardless or age and stage.

Knowing, really knowing who we are, provides us with an anchor during the stormy times and more awareness of opportunities that we may have been previously blind to.

Relationships can be tricky especially when old hurts and wounds are layered over each other.  Or we assume we know what someone else is thinking.  The words we use and the way in which we deliver them can wound – intentionally and unintentionally.

The techniques I use help to heal from relevant trauma associated with the relationship(s) while supporting new ways of communicating more effectively to minimise misunderstandings, and to give you tools to quickly rectify mistakes in communication or understanding.

You may be struggling to grow the relationship you want with your partner, children, work colleagues etc.  By resolving old trauma, it can rid you of the triggers that have you communicating in a way that is not helping the relationship.

Once the trauma is no longer in the driving seat, we can support you on the course direction you want with clarity and the practical tools to support you.

We communicate on multiple levels with all our senses.  It is not only our words but the tone in which they are spoken, the volume, the emphasis.  Our body language of how we hold ourselves, are we upright or hunched over, attentive or distracted multi-tasking.

We are always operating at a certain energy frequency and energy is contagious.  Think of someone who when you are around them, they often seem to be calming, meetings go well when they are in the meeting.  Or perhaps you can think of someone who always seems to be on edge, and it puts others in the meeting on edge too.  People may not feel safe to speak.

I can support with practical tools and techniques to help you be more curious and get the best out of your communication along with deeper work to shift limiting self-beliefs, healing of old wounds that have you making assumptions of others motives or capabilities, or your own capabilities, and align you to the inspiration communicator within.

Trauma can be with a little ‘t’ or big bold ‘T’.  As humans we all experience trauma. Our clever brain encodes negative experiences and then is always on guard to avoid it next time.  However, sometimes the coding outlives its usefulness and holds us back or sabotages our adult goals.  The techniques I use are gentle and compassionate with little actual detail required to resolve and dissolve away the trigger response in the brain and body.  Gone are the nerves, rapid heartbeat, and scattered thoughts when there is no real danger.  Replaced by confidence, calm and courage.

Examples range from nerves with public speaking, presenting to stakeholders through to major trauma of sexual abuse/assault, violence, and first on the scene for car accidents.

Anxiety can paralyse our wish for calm and ease as we worry about the future and what could happen.  Like a hijacker taking control.  It doesn’t have to be this way.  We can overcome the hijacker with techniques that connect you to your strengths, values and goals with compassion and ease.  The power of your mind is immense and while I facilitate the structure and techniques, the magic happens from within your mind and vivid imagination.  Your imagination creates the possibilities of what might happen causing your anxiety so it can work its magic to reverse and replace with more helpful possibilities. Clients’ report feeling an ease and calm in mind and body that was previously unknown to them.  Typically, significant shifts can occur in as little as 4-6 sessions.

Depression and sadness are typically brought on through our past experiences and traumas.  We can also inherit trauma from previous generations and science suggests as far back as seven generations.  It doesn’t need to be a life sentence though.  The techniques I use are evidence based, gentle and compassionate to help heal past trauma and dissolve the receptor in the amygdala, the primitive part of our brain that acts as a super radar alert.

Clients report big shifts in as little as 4-6 sessions, and it doesn’t take the months and years that talk therapy can take.  I don’t advocate for you to stop your medication and encourage you to share the journey with your GP to manage prescription meds.  

There is a view in my profession, and shared by me that not everyone who experiences trauma develops an addiction but everyone who develops an addiction has experienced trauma.

The techniques I use are gentle and compassionate and go deep to the trauma and heal and reconcile the past.  You still have the objective memory and the wisdom left behind but the emotional trigger response that has you reaching for your numbing substance of choice is typically dissolved away, or significantly diminished.  Clients report a sense of ease and peace in their body and mind that they didn’t know was possible before.  Furthermore, I do not require you to share details of your past that further encode the trauma making it stronger.  We spend the smallest amount of time connecting to the trauma response as possible, you verbally share as much or as little information as you wish, then we use techniques that gently dissolve the trauma response in the amygdala leaving the working memory intact. 

The trauma was encoded by way of an electro chemical response that creates a receptor in the amygdala (our alert system) and it is permanently encoded.  Keeping us safe with the highest intent.  It doesn’t know that the danger has now past.  However, techniques can create a different electro chemical response that dissolves away the receptors relating to specific traumas, allowing the body to respond by reducing cortisol and adrenaline that while helpful in an actual emergency is dangerous to our long term health when we have high levels of these chemicals in our body as part of our ’ normal’.

The techniques can significantly support other work you may already be undertaking to beat an addiction.

Is PTSD hijacking your day-to-day life? Our brain is so clever in the way it works to keep us safe.  Sometimes the encoding is not always appropriate for our life now.  The techniques I use support the part of the brain that encodes the trauma to recover, leaving the objective memory and wisdom intact.  Clients notice an immediate shift in stress levels and diminished anxiety and agitation in relation to the past.  Results are quick and typically within 4-6 sessions. Most clients report they feel an improvement even after the first session.

The added bonus is that you do not need to share distressing details to get the results.  We touch on the trauma only momentarily.  How much the client verbally shares is up to the client but it is not necessary to share detail that has held you back from getting support before.

It is often those closest to us who experience the worst of us.  Do you find that you can hold it together at work most of the time and then your family cop it? Or you are so exhausted you don’t have the energy to participate in conversation or family life? Perhaps you find that you are communicating in a less than respectful and empowering way to your team despite your best intent?

Our past sabotages our present more than most of us realise.  Only about 5-10% of our daily behaviour is controlled by our higher executive functioning (pre frontal cortex) part of our brain.  The rest of the time we are running on auto-pilot. It is part of our evolutionary survival system.  We cannot navigate every new situation as completely new.  We form automated views or beliefs of the world and how we fit in it from a very early age.  This part of us acts one ninth of a second!  Your executive functioning takes far longer to respond.

Help is at hand though and it is easier than you may think. Together we can work on dissolving away old traumas (trauma is anything the mind perceives as being negative and can be minor) and allow you to be more fully aligned with the person you want to be and the relationships you want to co-create.

Is a specific fear or phobia getting in the way of you living your life? Does it prevent you from seeking medical help? Going to the dentist? Going on holiday?  Trusting people? Techniques are fast and permanent to enable to live your life without being hijacked by your phobia or fear.

I don’t know about you, but my excess weight was less about knowing what to eat or how much and more about my sabotaging patterns of behaviour.  I used to set goals, do well for a period and then lose the plot by eating a bit off plan and then thinking ‘what the hell? I may as well go all in and start again tomorrow’.  It was a cycle of self-sabotage.  It was so frustrating.

If this sounds like you I’d love to support your health goals using everything in my toolkit.  As a PreKure certified health coach along with hypnosis and Havening®️ we work to ease those struggles and minimise or eliminate the self-sabotage so that you can reach your goal faster, to be the healthiest version of yourself for you and your family.

Depression can feel like a life sentence.  Like it is something that we have to put up with. It is genetic and I have to accept it.  Not necessarily.  Lots of things contribute to depression including nutrition, lifestyle, our past experiences and trauma and yes genetics.  Studies now show that we can inherit trauma from up to seven generations back – trauma that isn’t even ours!  Studies also show that genetic predisposition does not mean it is predestined.

By healing old trauma and connecting in with your higher self we can work together to realign you to your goals and have a renewed zest for life.  No one is born depressed.  We develop depression over time through our experiences or inherent patterns in our family.  Together we can resolve these wounds through gentle and compassionate use of Havening®️ and hypnosis.  If you are on medication for depression, please do not alter your prescription without the guidance of your GP.  A collaborative approach works best.

Everyone experiences trauma.  The degree in which we encode trauma varies from person to person depending on a number of variables.  Typically, if you feel you are self-sabotaging or not following through on your goals, there is likely to be some ‘old stuff’ lurking that is there to protect you.  We encode beliefs about ourselves and the world that were helpful when they were encoded but as we get older we outgrow the need. 

Hypnosis and Havening®️ dovetail beautifully together to resolve old limiting self-beliefs and to get you connected into the life you want.

Has something got in the way of you pushing forward to win? Perhaps a past injury that has physically healed has left an imprint on your confidence? We can quickly work together to resolve that emotional trigger that has you hesitating or holding back and get you back to being in full alignment regardless of your sport.

We are experiencing so much change all the time.  We are told that workplace change is not personal it is business.  Try being on the receiving end.  It feels very personal as the impact or fear of unemployment and implications on our financial ability to continue to support our family, or the impact on our status in the workplace, family or our community.  We may even feel guilt for having benefitted from someone else’s redundancy.

The experience can have lasting impacts on our confidence and motivation.   However, techniques can quickly heal the encoded trauma allowing you to move forward with renewed energy and focus.  Any work we do together will add exponentially to any work you are already doing with outplacement providers.