Banish your Fear of Public Speaking – FAST!

My clients vary so much in terms of why they reach out, their backgrounds and financial security. They range from CEO to factory floor employee, 70s to children… but all have two things in common.  Firstly, they have a problem(s) that they have been unable to resolve on their own, much to their frustration, and they have reached a threshold. Secondly, they are motivated to sort it.

There is a myth out there that anyone who seeks additional support is weak or needy. My clients without exception have shown enormous courage to reach out for help. Many are highly functioning professionals giving the impression they have it all together while inside they are exhausted and struggling.

An example, imagine a senior professional in a large corporate.  He has a rich and diverse family life, young family, happy marriage, generally well balanced, keeps good health … and for decades had been able to avoid public speaking without any great issue.  However, this was now impacting his ability to cope with day-to-day activities in the workplace and his sleep was disrupted as he worried about a meeting where he needed to, or might be asked, to speak.  As his career had grown and promotions had happened, the need for taking the lead in group settings and being the expert in person and online became more and more frequent.  The fear of these planned and ad-hoc meetings consumed his day and taunted his attempts to sleep.  The problem was compounding. He would literally become tongue tied and then would end up having to leave the meeting abruptly.  No amount of self-talk or planning seemed to help. He wanted his power back.

In two sessions this client, James, was able to resolve decades of angst.  The changes are at the source level in the brain, there are no work arounds because there is no longer a fear or phobia to trigger.  He reported being able to speak in person to groups and over zoom to large numbers without any of the old freeze then flee response.  In fact, to his surprise and delight it was easy. A casual but meaningful comment to me was ‘I wish I knew about this 20 years ago’.  We have worked on a couple of other areas for him too as once he realised what could happen, he was keen to pursue more to improve his quality of work, life and that of his family.  Read what James had to say in his own words.

“I had the absolute privilege to work with Ellie virtually over the last 6 weeks.
During these sessions we worked through past traumas dealing with sudden loss and social phobias that have held me back most of my adult life.

As someone who has struggled to get a handle on these issues, I’d tried numerous therapies and medications over the last 20 years with limited success, so it was safe to say I was a little skeptical that Ellie will be able to help in any meaningful way…. how happily wrong I was!

Past situations that would spark fear or give me an anxiety attack no longer have that effect. My whole perspective has quickly shifted and as a result I’m happier, no longer live in fear and are more than likely nicer to be around too! Ellie listened and gently guided me back to a path where I was in control, and my body no longer responded in the same ways to the triggers of the past

Ellies attention to detail, knowledge, openness and empathy coupled with the tools and techniques she provides, allow you to address whatever concerns you have head on. The change I’ve noticed in myself since seeing Ellie has been nothing short of life changing, I don’t say that lightly, but Ellie is the real deal.
If you are reading this and are still unsure, take a leap of faith and invest in yourself, the freedom you’ll feel after working with Ellie that anything is possible is a comforting thought. My biggest regret is that I hadn’t met Ellie 20 years earlier!”  – James

The techniques require minimal talking unless the client wishes to share. Sometimes it is cathartic for the client. What is needed is trust and rapport, and a willingness to work with me.  Working online is no barrier.  In fact, often as not it gets even better results as the client is in their own environment, no commuting, and you can rest and relax immediately afterwards to further embed the changes.  However, if in person is your thing I’ve got you covered if you live in, or can travel to, Wellington, New Zealand.

If you would like to know more.  Please reach out via www.ellielockhartcoaching.com or give me a call directly on +64212018982.