I just turned 60! Loving my Life!

So.. I turned 60 last week! Inside I still feel 30 but I get glimpses of my mum in the mirror that brings me back to ‘reality’.

People have been tentatively approaching the topic as if it were something to fear. I get it. I used to fear it too. There is so much ageism out there in the world, and it was in my own head for a long time too.

I am privileged to have reached this age for several reasons. My health is great. I have no aches or pains. I sleep well. I have a supportive husband, two daughters who I love, (respect and like), and it is reciprocated.  I am loved. I have strong and enduring friendships, and new ones that have developed through my studies and training. And I am now doing the best ‘work’ of my life.  I feel so ‘lucky’ to have created this new career focus for myself.

Two of my close friends won’t make this milestone.  They died within four weeks of each other two years ago. So much of life not lived because of sudden and premature death. That has added to my sense of gratitude and making the best of the life I have. I miss them both, but they fuel me too. It honours them.  I am ‘lucky’.

There are a few inverted comma comments, and I will address those.   My professional focus supports clients to get the shifts they are seeking but the training has also provided me with the opportunity and tools to help resolve my own stuff.  Our reality is perception.  I could choose to focus on my age as being a signpost to the end and that would be my reality. Instead, my reality is that I get to focus on a new career and be present for my family.  I intend to keep learning and having adventures until I skid into death in a few decades.

My professional focus supports people to get deep change at a belief level. Trauma is resolved and healed.  Health is improved mentally and physically as cortisol reduces and inflammatory conditions improve. It doesn’t feel like work.  The sessions fuel me rather than drain me. I am doing work that has meaning and makes a positive impact in my client’s lives.

There seems to have been a degree of luck involved.  Opportunities came along. I received promotions in my previous career due to my work ethic and communication style I suspect.  I had people who saw more in me than I saw in myself. I owe those people a great deal of gratitude. There was also a huge amount of effort that went into my life that was unseen by anyone outside of our household I suspect.  I was wracked with self-doubt. My new business has come from a lot of study, training, practicing, taking risks and continually focusing on improvement and growth. It is now an addiction. I geek out on trauma resolution, behaviour change at the belief level to update outdated inner programs to recode and allow people to reach the outcomes they want. Procrastination, self-sabotage, perfectionism, judgment, OCD, addiction, sleep problems etc are all unhelpful and outdated programs that hold us back but that a client can resolve relatively quickly.

In closing, thank you to those who made my day special. It was low key but full of connection and love, in person and from afar, starting with my first coffee of the day, lunch with my sister at my younger daughter’s work (surprise decorations in photo), and dinner with family and friends at Rita’s in Wellington in the evening.

If you would like to know how you might be able to resolve something that you don’t seem to be able to shake on your own…  Please reach out via www.ellielockhartcoaching.com or give me a call directly on +64212018982.